Key Takeaways
- Surface answers rarely reveal the real need
- Layering questions dig beneath initial responses
- Probing questions clarify and expand understanding
Getting Beyond Surface Answers
"The first answer is never the real answer."
When clients answer your questions, they typically give you the surface response—what they think they should say, or what's easy to articulate. Your job is to layer deeper.
Layering: Going Deeper on the Same Topic
When a client gives you an answer, follow it with another open question on the same topic.
Example Sequence:
| Question | Response | Your Next Question |
|---|---|---|
| "What's most important to you financially?" | "I want to retire comfortably." | "What does 'comfortably' look like to you?" |
| "What does 'comfortably' look like?" | "Not having to worry about money." | "What would you be doing with your time if money wasn't a worry?" |
| "What would you be doing?" | "Traveling, spending time with grandkids..." | "Tell me more about what those moments would look like." |
Now you know: They don't just want "retirement"—they want freedom to travel and be with family. That's actionable.
Probing: Expanding Understanding
Probing questions help you clarify or expand on something the client said.
| Probing Phrase | When to Use |
|---|---|
| "Tell me more about that..." | When they mention something interesting |
| "What do you mean by...?" | When they use vague terms |
| "How so?" | When they make a statement you want to explore |
| "What's an example of that?" | When you need specifics |
| "And what else?" | When you sense there's more |
The Three-Deep Rule
Never stop at the first answer. Get at least three layers deep on important topics.
Layer 1: "What are you hoping to accomplish?" → "I want to save more." Layer 2: "What would saving more allow you to do?" → "Feel more secure." Layer 3: "What does security mean to you personally?" → "Knowing my kids won't have to support me when I'm old. My parents didn't plan, and it put a huge strain on us."
Now you understand the real driver.
The Surface Answer
A client who gives generic, surface-level responses
Setup
You're in a discovery meeting with a 45-year-old professional. They're being cooperative but giving you textbook answers that don't reveal much. Your job is to layer deeper to find their real motivations.
Client says:
“Well, you know, I just want the usual stuff. Save for retirement, make sure my family is protected, maybe put the kids through college. The normal things everyone wants, I guess.”
Practice Objectives
- 1Use layering questions to dig beneath "the usual stuff"
- 2Get specific about what retirement/protection/college means to them
- 3Uncover emotional drivers, not just financial goals
- 4Avoid accepting generic answers—probe for personal meaning
The Reluctant Sharer
A private person who deflects personal questions
Setup
You're meeting with someone who was referred by their employer's financial wellness program. They clearly need help but are uncomfortable sharing personal details.
Client says:
“I appreciate the company offering this, but I'm a pretty private person about money. I don't really like discussing my finances with strangers. Can you just tell me what I should be doing?”
Practice Objectives
- 1Respect their discomfort while gently opening the conversation
- 2Explain why you need to understand their situation (not being nosy)
- 3Use probing questions that feel safe rather than intrusive
- 4Build trust incrementally rather than pushing for everything at once
A client says "I want to be financially independent." What's the best follow-up question?